Co-parenting depends on the ability of former spouses to openly exchange information about their children, and to successfully make decisions regarding their children’s wellbeing. The most important thing you can do is to move beyond the anger and blame you may have for one another. This is why mediation, kitchen-table settlements, and collaborative divorces are gaining popularity in the world of family law; it’s hard for ex-spouses who have hurt each other in court to face one another once the smoke has cleared.
The healthiest children of post-divorce families have either cooperative co-parents – those who deal well together, trust one another and employ good problem-solving skills – or parents who practice parallel co-parenting. Parallel parenting does not involve as much face-to-face interaction between parents, but parents employ effective plans with established communication structures and decision-making processes. Ultimately, the less conflict, the healthier the child.
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(Information gathered from the article “Coparenting: A Lifelong Partnership” published in Your Blended Family: A Guide for Parents & Stepparents from Family Advocate.)